Finding the Time (With Giveaway!)

Update: Thank you so much for sharing your lives with me in the comments. 😉 I loved reading about the very busy roles that you all have! I randomly selected a commenter to win, and that winner is…Brandie Nickerson. Congrats!

Do you often feel like you are being pulled in a million different directions? I bet you do…sometimes, I think that pulling is just one of those (unfortunate but) necessary parts of life.

Each day, we all have multiple roles that we play as we go about our normal routines. For me, my day goes something like this–in terms of my roles:

Chef (someone has to make breakfast and get my son’s lunch ready)

Maid (someone has to iron the clothes and get the beds fixed)

Taxi Driver (ahoy! school time)

Writer (that would be the 7+ hours that I spend frantically typing at my computer before I head out again to be a…)

Taxi Driver (this time, the taxi drives to karate or cub scouts or an Open House event)

Teacher (Homework time!)

Wife (whoops–almost forgot about that one–got to make time to chat with the hubby)

Monster fighter (when bedtime comes, someone has to be brave enough to face the monsters that might be in the closet or under the bed)

Reality TV Watcher (come on, I’ve got to decompress!)

Writer (I’m under two deadlines right now, so I’m trying to get in extra page counts)

And, finally…

Dreamer (that would be when I stumble into bed).

Ahem…I bet your list looks like mine. Or…I bet it’s even longer than mine. With all of these different roles that you’ve got going on, do you find the time to ever just stop and treat your self to some relaxing moments?  If you don’t, you should! Even if it’s no more than five minutes, we all need to just step back and have that most precious “me” time.

Because while we are playing all of these roles for other people, it’s also important for us to take care of ourselves, too. Right?

For today’s giveaway, I’m going to give one commenter a $15 gift certificate. It is my hope that you’ll use this gift certificate to buy yourself a great book or video–and enjoy that “Me” time.

To enter the giveaway, just tell me a role that you play during the day–you can give me one role, you can give me a dozen.  Who are you?  What do you do?

About Cynthia Eden

Award-winning author Cynthia Eden writes dark tales of paranormal romance and romantic suspense. She is a New York Times, USA Today, Digital Book World, and IndieReader best-seller. Cynthia is also a two-time finalist for the RITA® award (she was a finalist both in the romantic suspense category and in the paranormal romance category). Since she began writing full-time in 2005, Cynthia has written over thirty-five novels and novellas. More information about Cynthia can be found at
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39 Responses to Finding the Time (With Giveaway!)

  1. Elizabeth H. says:

    Hi Cynthia! I love all your books! One role I play during the day is back-to-college student. I enjoy it, and it gives me the flexibilty to keep up with my favorite authors on those popular social networks! It’s also a peaceful role until my son gets home, then I switch to cook, listener, question answerer, teacher…etc. You know what, though? I wouldn’t trade it for the world! Thanks for the post and awesome giveaway!
    ehaney578 at aol dot com

  2. Chris Bails says:

    I get up and do my kitchen duties and get the kids breakfast. I then do my quick maid duties and put the kids clothes out that I have gotten ready the night before. I jump in the shower while they eat and get dressed. Then I chauffer and take them to school. I then go home and clean or do laundry. I then get a couple hour break to do some reading or watch a little television(usually reading). I then on mondays & tuesdays pick the kids up from school. Wednesday through friday I then do my 40 hour a week job doing front desk at a hotel. I check in guests, do cleaning duties, and tons of laundry. I also sometimes feel like I am a babysitter, especially on the weekends. I am off at 11pm, I then go home, read a little, and do it all over again of the weekend. The kids get picked up by their dad wed-friday. We work opposite shifts because daycare is so expensive. I like being off during the day because I can do activities with the kids like field trips, volunteer at assemblies, or whatever extra help they need. I do have an extremely busy day, but I would not change it for the world.
    Thanks for the giveaway.

  3. Krazzyme says:

    Roles I play

    Castle/SPN/and many other awesome TV show fangirl


    Multi tasker



    Head Banger (Bang my head against the wall)


  4. Brandie Nickerson says:

    Awesome! I’m a home daycare provider, cook, teacher, taxi driver, wife, writer, after-school mom (for all the kids my children invite over), volunteer (local writing chapter, school & church), and a variety of others things, but my head is hurting so I’ll stop 🙂

    I love my hats, but sometimes I wish I could put them in a closet for just one day 🙂


  5. Mina De Caro says:

    I think it’s in the nature of women to be multi-task creature. When you start your own family you doom yourself to years and years of self-sacrifice. It’s very easy to loose your “identity” in the whirlpool created by your kids’ needs, your job, the housewife’s chores, and the time you need to share with your hubby to avoid loosing the love connection. So here I am, wife, mother, houdewife, free-lance writer, blogger, on the verge of a nervous break,down, but ready to do it all over again if I wad given the chance to go back in time.
    Mina De Caro`s last blog was …THE CHOCOLATE THIEF (Chocolate #1) by Laura Florand

  6. Taylor Z says:

    Roles i play: dreamer, realist, roommate, student, friend, and a multi-tasker.

    -Taylor Z

  7. Amy R says:

    I am tired after reading your post! My day looks a lot like yours except while you are writing I am in an office working. You must be very disciplined to sit and write as much as you do. My “me” time is reading. I have a Nook but I also have the Nook and Kindle apps on my phone so while I am waiting in line somewhere I am reading on my phone. I read over my lunch hour. I even read in the bathroom! Ha ha. Probably TMI, but just keeping it real! So, yes, I do take my “me” times even if they are a few minutes throughout the day. 🙂

  8. kim Cornwell says:

    Hi im kim. Wow my list is long.
    5:30am up to get ready to drive my school bus. I leave at 6:40 back by 8:45. I carry 65 elementary and 50 high school. When I get home I
    Got barn to feed my 7 horses brush them, water them and work with my babies. Halter breaking them.
    I go back to house about 10:30 eat
    breakfast, clean house and do my
    running around. At 2:00 I’m back on my school bus until 4:45. Then I have to cook supper wash clothes. I cook every night except. Saturday night. I then clean kitchen and head back to the barn. Same routine again. I will also do any work needed in the pasture. I then go back to house around 9:00 . I feed my 4 dogs and 1 -18 yr old cat. Finally about 10:30 I get a few minutes to read and then im out forbthe night

  9. Kimberley Coover says:

    😉 Love you books….As of December 2011 (when my 22 yr old daughter and her 2yr old son moved back in) I am taxi drive, maid, cook, babysitter, accountant, grandma and mama and wife (my husband has been out in AZ since 5/11 when his Mom became ill – he stayed and took care of her until her death 2/12 and is still there trying to deal with her estate and will). With my hubby gone – it seems everything is 2x as hard and frustrating….fingers crossed he will be home in the next 30 days, please God.

    I take my me moments in my bedroom at bedtime (needless to say I read and have been getting very little sleep maybe 3 hrs nite….have to have my read time :mrgreen: )

    But that said I would miss a moment with my daughter and grandson…Blessings in abundance!

    thanks for the giveaway….fingers crossed!

  10. Cindy Anderson says:

    The Role that I play during the day is Mother to about 75 people (coworkers who can’t put paper in the copier or printer and who can not figure out how to make coffee).

  11. Edie Ramer says:

    I don’t have the kids to take to school anymore, but I have pets that need to go in and out all day – often – plus an indoor cat who seems to sense when I’m in the middle of a tense scene, because that’s usually the time she chooses to jump on my lap and start kneading away. And like Kimberly, I’m the accountant, too. And then there are all the household details to take care of… 😯

    But we manage anyway, because we have to.

  12. Diane says:

    Babysitter: I work in retail and I’m in charge of a group of teenagers trying to act as adults and sell products! It’s like being at home!!! 😀

  13. Kerry says:

    I am an office manager, lover, housekeeper, chef, etc..etc…LOL but I love almost all of my jobs – sometimes I can do without housekeeper though.

  14. petula winmill says:

    I’m retired now so I’m only a Cleaner, shopper, dog walker and cook. Still manage time to read though.

  15. Amanda says:

    Cat herder – I have to try to get the everyone I work with on the same page and work together as a unit. It usually feels like I’m trying to herd a bunch of cats

  16. Desere says:

    Hi Cynthia ,

    I play problem solver to almost each and every one of my clients! I am a paralegal and that entails my boss (who believe me is a really busy man) not always finding the time to attend to everyone so that leaves me to sort everyone out so that he does not have to handle so much pressure,I totally love it !

    Thanks for the giveaway !

  17. Stacey Marin says:

    For sure I’m a cleaner and a chef…or at least I like to pretend that I am. 🙂

  18. Virna DePaul says:

    Great post! I try to be a cheerleader for myself and my family. Life is hard, but there’s so much to enjoy about it, too. It’s easy to forget that. 🙂

  19. Greg says:

    The roles I play:


    Game show viewer





    Chore boy

  20. Valerie Long says:

    Roles I play:
    Mother (I have 2 fur-children, a 9 1/2 month old cat and a dog). 😀
    Chauffeur (I’m always the one driving when I or my parents have errands to do around town). 🙄
    Maid (I have a cat to clean up after and then of course my own messes).
    Boss (I have to tell myself to keep working even when I don’t want to, part of the jewelry making business I have). 👿
    Designer (I design jewelry to make and sell). 💡
    Sales Woman (I have to promote my business and jewelry every day to try to make new sales and get new customers interested in my stuff). 😈
    I think that’s most of my roles, there’s probably more but just can’t think of them at the moment. 😀

    Valerie Long

  21. Misty Evans says:

    Along with motherhood and career, I’m caretaker to my aging parents and I teach online workshops. I used to run a book club and sit on a local board, but I’ve given up those roles. I don’t have time to devote to them, nor do I have the energy!

    But like others have mentioned, I love most of my roles. 🙂

  22. Brandy M. says:

    Okay so here goes
    Chef/Pill-pusher(Med-Aide)/Caregiver/Pseudo-Nurse/Wound care specialist/Counselor/Mediator/Building Manager/Traffic Controller/Crisis Manager/Plumber/House Keeper/Dishwasher/Companion/Fax Tech/Computer Specialist/Laundry Guru/Dog Walker/Receptionist/Avid Reader/Sometimes T.V. viewer. Yeah so I love my job but I wear a lot of hats 🙂 Med-Aide at an Assisted Living Facility

  23. blodeuedd says:

    Hm…I am the..well nice one. I work with kids and I am not cut out to be the stern one
    blodeuedd`s last blog was …Emma by Jane Austen. Discussion with Anna from Diary of an Eccentric

  24. Cynthia Eden says:

    Wow!! Looking at all of these busy lives makes me feel exhausted!! Thank you so much for sharing all of your roles with me. 😉 And even though we can all get busy, I love that so many noted that they wouldn’t change their busy lives. You can be busy and happy. 😉

  25. bn100 says:

    employee, child

  26. Liz Kreger says:

    Good God, where to start?

    – Morning nag (to get the little darlin’ up and movin’ for school)
    – Taxi driver
    – Legal Asst. (which is a fancy title for chief light bulb changer, etc. … small office)
    – Wife
    – Mother
    – Homework badger
    – No time for television
    – Somewhere in there I might (just might) get some writing in
    – Back to nag to get little darlin’ to go to bed
    – Unconscious

  27. jeanette8042 says:

    At the moment I’m a worker but in a week or so I’ll continue with being a student with no life 😕

  28. Chelsea B. says:

    TV mega-star– I know what shows are coming on, when, what we’ll watch, what we’ll record and and what we’ll skip all together :mrgreen:

  29. donnas says:

    I try to take a few minutes at night before bed. Even if its only 5 mins. It doesnt happen everyday but I try to get at least a few “cooldown” moments.

  30. Solducky says:

    Short order cook and nutritionist – I have two kids with different food allergies, so I generally make two (or sometimes 3) variations on dinner to give everyone roughly the same meal experience.

  31. Barbara Elness says:

    During the day I work at City Hall as admin to the Human Resources Director, and I love working there. I was used to being used and abused in my previous job, worked way too hard for little pay, was shown appreciation occasionally, but not very often. My new boss is so sweet and always asks me to \”do her a favor\” rather than giving me orders, she\’s a joy to work for. When I get home, it\’s all me time. Since I\’m single, I don\’t have to answer to anyone and I do what I please, which is to play on the computer, read and watch some television. That\’s pretty much me in a nutshell. 😀

  32. Cynthia Eden says:

    Thank you all so much for sharing your roles with me! Wow–you sure do have some seriously busy lives!!!
    Cynthia Eden`s last blog was …ANGEL IN CHAINS

  33. “Do you often feel like you are being pulled in a million different directions?”
    I don’t feel as if I am, I AM! I need more hours in the day!

  34. Lauren says:

    Thanks for the great giveaway!
    I’m a college lecturer so I’m always busy preparing lesson plans, writing exams, marking exams and papers – but I love it all and can’t imagine doing anything else.

  35. Eliza Daly says:

    Hi Cynthia! Here are a few of my roles. I’m sure there are more…

    Book Promoter
    Mom (to my two sassy kitties)
    Event planner

  36. ELF says:

    wife…(which of course includes doing things for the MIL)
    very inefficient maid…
    haphazard cook (yes, because I am a …. reader!)
    and…of course…back to reader!
    ELF`s last blog was …Proving I’m not a robot! and a couple of contests

  37. Pamk says:

    I am all those and you can include drill instructor I have teenage boys. Lol

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