You’re probably familiar with the above song from “My Fair Lady.” Well, I’d like to know the opposite. On a Yahoo author loop, a male writer recently said that since he was writing a book with romance, he’d decided to read a few books in the genre. When he did, he thought, Men don’t think like this.
I’m not sure what he meant, except perhaps that men don’t think about emotions. Especially not from all the angles that women think about them. I’m sure they feel them, but they would rather jab a tree branch through their foot than think about them.
This bothers me. As a writer, I should know what men think so my books will feel authentic. I’ve read books on the differences between men and women. They helped me with men’s speech patterns and body language, but not their thoughts.
Years ago, my husband was once staring into the air, and I asked what he was thinking. “Nothing,” he said. I replied, “You have to think about something.” He said, “No. Nothing.”
The only time my mind is that blank is after I’ve cleaned out half the brownie pan, and I’m in a sugar coma.
So, if you’re a man, do you think about your feelings? Not physical feelings, but emotional.
And if you’re a woman, what’s your opinion on men’s thoughts?
(By the way, I just asked my husband if he ever thinks about emotions. He said, “Yes.” I asked what he thought about them, and he said “I don’t know, but I have thought about them.” Then he hurried away… Obviously not a conversation he wanted to continue.)