This last month was a bit exhausting. In a nutshell my computer crashed, I ordered a new one but it didn’t work. So, I got new software, it still didn’t work. Then I became incredibly sick, the virus lasting over a week. Finally, when I started to feel better I got an email from my Amazon Montlake editor asking me if I’d still be able to turn in book 3 (To Please a Lady) of the Seduction Series by mid-May. I’d been so out of it I hadn’t even been paying attention to dates, and I’d just lost almost a month between broken computes and illness. I told her I’d try, which means until mid-May, I’ll be super stressed. When it rains it pours, indeed.
Years ago this sort of stress would have gotten me way down. When things like this happen it’s easy to get stuck in the mud, to sit around, wallow, and wonder why the world hates you, why everything horrible always seems to happen to you. As much as I’d like to curl up in bed I’ve been trying to be a happier, more positive person. I’m not going to lie…being happy is hard! But between my own “aha” moments (as Oprah would say) and the self-help books I obsessively read, I’ve come up with a few things that have helped me.
-Surround yourself with the positive! Happy people, happy colors in your home, happy T.V. shows, happy music, happy books. Heck, this is why I started reading romance novels…because I knew there would be a happily ever after, and I knew when that book ended, I would be smiling.
-Write in a gratitude journal, and really feel it! It doesn’t matter if you write silly little things, or huge amazing things, write down what makes you happy, and what you’re grateful for as often as you can. You’ll realize how much you have to be happy about.
-Take comfort in the innocence of your pets and children. They’re always doing something that will make you laugh! Our puppy Daisy is getting huge! She loves to hang her head off her bed when she sleeps. There’s nothing better then watching her chase her own tail to lighten the mood.
-Make an effort to control your thoughts. You’re standing in line, in a hurry and you’re thinking about how damn annoying the woman is in front of you because she’s going so freaking slow! Instead, look around you, refocus your attention on what you see that you like! That skirt is pretty, that child is adorable, I love how the sunlight filters through the windows… there is plenty to appreciate!
-Don’t take things personally. Let’s be honest in a typical day someone at some time will probably lash out at you, and if you’re like most people it will hurt your feelings or bring you down. Well, I’m here to tell you that most of the time when a person lashes out it actually has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them and their own issues! So don’t take on their issues, their negativity, and don’t take it personally!
-Give your time, money, a kind word, even a little gift to a friend. Yesterday I had to spend 3 hours at the dentist. By the second hour I just wanted to go home; I felt so miserable! The woman working the check-out counter wasn’t smiling nor very vocal until I told her I liked her sweater. Think about it, you have the power to make or break someone’s day by being kind, or by acting like an ass. With power comes great responsibility… Use your powers for good! Make it your mission to make people smile; it’s amazing what you can do!
So what am I grateful for? I’m grateful for the amazing, wonderful and supportive readers who are so kind and friendly. I’m so grateful that I’m doing a giveaway! Leave a comment and tell me how you lighten your mood, or what makes you happy. One person will win a $50 gift card for Barnes and Noble, ITunes or Amazon! Your pick!