Happiness is… and Giveaway!

This last month was a bit exhausting. In a nutshell my computer crashed, I ordered a new one but it didn’t work. So, I got new software, it still didn’t work. Then I became incredibly sick, the virus lasting over a week. Finally, when I started to feel better I got an email from my AmazoLoriBrighton_ToPleaseaLadyn Montlake editor asking me if I’d still be able to turn in book 3 (To Please a Lady) of the Seduction Series by mid-May. I’d been so out of it I hadn’t even been paying attention to dates, and I’d just lost almost a month between broken computes and illness. I told her I’d try, which means until mid-May, I’ll be super stressed. When it rains it pours, indeed.

Years ago this sort of stress would have gotten me way down. When things like this happen it’s easy to get stuck in the mud, to sit around, wallow, and wonder why the world hates you, why everything horrible always seems to happen to you. As much as I’d like to curl up in bed I’ve been trying to be a happier, more positive person. I’m not going to lie…being happy is hard! But between my own “aha” moments (as Oprah would say) and the self-help books I obsessively read, I’ve come up with a few things that have helped me.

-Surround yourself with the positive! Happy people, happy colors in your home, happy T.V. shows, happy music, happy books. Heck, this is why I started reading romance novels…because I knew there would be a happily ever after, and I knew when that book ended, I would be smiling.

-Write in a gratitude journal, and really feel it! It doesn’t matter if you write silly little things, or huge amazing things, write down what makes you happy, and what you’re grateful for as often as you can. You’ll realize how much you have to be happy about.Daisy

-Take comfort in the innocence of your pets and children. They’re always doing something that will make you laugh! Our puppy Daisy is getting huge! She loves to hang her head off her bed when she sleeps. There’s nothing better then watching her chase her own tail to lighten the mood.

-Make an effort to control your thoughts. You’re standing in line, in a hurry and you’re thinking about how damn annoying the woman is in front of you because she’s going so freaking slow! Instead, look around you, refocus your attention on what you see that you like! That skirt is pretty, that child is adorable, I love how the sunlight filters through the windows… there is plenty to appreciate!

-Don’t take things personally. Let’s be honest in a typical day someone at some time will probably lash out at you, and if you’re like most people it will hurt your feelings or bring you down. Well, I’m here to tell you that most of the time when a person lashes out it actually has nothing to do with you and everything to do with them and their own issues! So don’t take on their issues, their negativity, and don’t take it personally!

-Give your time, money, a kind word, even a little gift to a friend. Yesterday I had to spend 3 hours at the dentist. By the second hour I just wanted to go home; I felt so miserable! The woman working the check-out counter wasn’t smiling nor very vocal until I told her I liked her sweater. Think about it, you have the power to make or break someone’s day by being kind, or by acting like an ass. With power comes great responsibility… Use your powers for good! Make it your mission to make people smile; it’s amazing what you can do!

So what am I grateful for? I’m grateful for the amazing, wonderful and supportive readers who are so kind and friendly. I’m so grateful that I’m doing a giveaway! Leave a comment and tell me how you lighten your mood, or what makes you happy. One person will win a $50 gift card for Barnes and Noble, ITunes or Amazon! Your pick!

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34 Responses to Happiness is… and Giveaway!

  1. Edie Ramer says:

    Lori, what a great post! Oddly, I woke up this morning and thought that today I was going to put love into everything I’m doing. I’m determined to write at least 20K words a week to finish my book on time, and today I’ll write at least 5K. Wish me luck!

    And good luck to you, too! You can do it!

  2. Amanda Mock says:

    I love to unwind with a book and a hot bath!! Add the bubbles and the bottle of beer and I am all but in heaven!!

  3. What an uplifting post! I am grateful for my wonderful friends. We do water exercise three days a week and go to lunch more than we should. We laugh together and support each other. They even critique my writing. They are one of the best part of my life.

  4. Misty Evans says:

    Go, Lori! I’m sending good vibes for your deadline. I hope the writing goddess blesses you with flowing fingers. 😀

    I’m grateful for good friends, good editors, the kid down the block who brings his dog by to cheer me up. The ocean, music, Amy Atwell (who fixes things I break), and all of our terrific MM friends and fellow authors. Also, I’m always humbled and feel gratitude to my readers who suppost my writing and my wild imagination!

  5. Rebecca Hoyt says:

    The thing that makes me happy when I’m sad or upset are my kids. When they are smiling and laughing you can’t help but feel it too. When I’m down I look to my two beautiful children to make me see I really don’t have it so bad (and a glass of red wine can’t hurt).

  6. Lee says:

    Spending time reading a book while sitting outside in the sunshine is one of my faves!!

  7. Lori Owen says:

    Hi Lori!

    My happiness right now is finding out that my 18 year old son Jacob, who has struggled with Aspergers Syndrome since he was 2 is GRADUATING from high school next month!!! It has been a super long road filled with tears.. and smiles.. but I wouldn’t change our struggle for anything because it has gave me a wonderful son and he has gave me inspiration to crawl out of bed very single morning with a smile 🙂

  8. Claudia says:

    Love this post today. Things that make me happy are the silly things my kids do. I think on those those things. The times my family and my church family are together as well. We are so silly and just thinking on them make my cup runneth over.

  9. I go sit out on my yard swing and just swing. Something about the motion, memories of swinging as a child calm me and always bring a smile to my face!

    Sending you well wishes for the deadline!

    Wishing you well all your days.
    Danyel McDaniel`s last blog was …Like I needed any more distractions in my life.

  10. Mary Doherty says:

    I always find that when I am down in the dumps, that something happens that is just awful (watching the news) to someone and I realize that my life is really pretty good. It always happens.

  11. Joyce Cloys says:

    Hi Lori,

    I’ve been lightening my mood and enjoying happy times with my brand new grandson. If you need some ‘de-stress’ time, just take a look at some of his new pictures uploaded to my Facebook. You gotta agree, nothing is more peaceful than holding a brand new sleeping baby. :0)

    Sadly, I head back to Ohio tomorrow, so I’ll have to enjoy him from a distance until we can get another visit in!

  12. Karese Blackwell says:

    Lori, I thoroughly enjoyed reading this post. I can relate to it in so many ways. I too am learning to be happy in life, not be over stressed, over used, and overwhelmed. Happiness doesn’t come easy to me; it’s definitely something I have to work for. I mean there are certain aspects of my life that bring me immense happiness, specifically my children. But, life is hard, when you put yourself out there, it’s inevitable that sometimes you’ll get knocked down. There was a time not so long ago that I didn’t cope well with the stress of life and couldn’t find a healthy balance between my family and the demands of undergraduate school. After years of being overwhelmed with anxiety, stress, and depression it finally got to me and knocked me flat on my tail-feather. This literally happened the month I graduated from undergraduate school. It’s like my mind and body knew that it was time for me to take a break. I never realized the psychological and physical toll all of that could take on your body. I had to take a year off from school and recover. I am currently about to wrap up my 2nd semester of graduate school and am doing much better overall. I’m learning that I can’t do it all alone, that it’s okay to ask for help and to take in all the little blessings that we experience everyday. Being happy with your life is a choice and I am choosing to be happy and love my life! 🙂

  13. Tina Polley Brant says:

    Lori, I feel your pain. Stress is a horrible thing. I have learned to deal with each situation as it comes and not worry about tomorrow. You see thirteen years ago my family and I were hit by a drunk driver. My daughters 6 and 10 at the time, my 8 month old grandson, my husband and myself. Thankfully we all survived. Only the Lord knows why. We all received extensive injuries and were hopitalized for weeks and laid up for months. I learned through that experience to take each moment as it comes and try to keep moving forward. There was so much love and caring from friends and family during that terrible time in our lives. Brought our families closer together and made us all appreciate the little things in life. Be nice to all no matter what. A smile could be the only nice thing a person receives in their day. I wish you luck 😉

  14. Dale Mayer says:

    Hi Lori,

    Love this post – and it’s right on. It’s important to also see a bright side and take that little bit extra effort to be positive. I understand stress! I also know how it can bring a person to the depths of despair and how it can just wear you down over the long term.

    Good luck to you and your writing deadline. You can do it!
    Dale Mayer`s last blog was …New Release! – UNBOUND

  15. Kristine Radgman says:

    I enjoyed your post Lori. I lighten my mood by reading novels.

  16. T.L. Radford says:

    What lightens my mood the most is when I pick up a book and read,or when authors write me to tell me when their new books or coming out:) Oh yes reading is a big Mood Lightener for me!!!!

  17. Amy says:

    I am grateful for so many things. What lightens my mood? Good books, good friends, fun time with my family. One thing is the MM blog because you guys are all so real and authentic. You blog about what you want and I love it. I ready it every day (even if I don’t comment every day) and love hearing your stories. It has taught me so much as a reader and what you guys go through. I am grateful that you guys work so hard to entertain us with your stories! Good luck with your deadlines!
    Amy`s last blog was …Review & Giveaway: THE DEVLIN GROUP Series by Shannon Stacey

  18. blodeuedd says:

    I do love reading what everyone else have to say cos I can’t say that I do anything special…just sit down and read I guess
    blodeuedd`s last blog was …Review: Legacy of Kings – Celia Friedman

  19. Jane says:

    Hi Lori,
    It’s hard to deal when it seems everything bad happens all at once. I’ll have to give the gratitude journal a try.

  20. Kyra Dunst says:

    What an uplifting post. I’ll definitely keep you in my prayers, Lori. I firmly believe in ‘Paying It Forward’. I find it empowering to help someone else or do something for another person. It doesn’t have to be much, and the rewards are greater than anyone can imagine.

    I’ve been in some pretty bad spots in my life, and I suffer from a chronic pain disorder. It’s easy to let myself get down and want to give up. I find myself searching for positives all day, just to balance the negatives. Most days thus works.

    I am also blessed with a caring hubby and a darling daughter who both fill my life with silly laughter and all the hugs a girl needs to make it through the bad.

    Now, if only I could find a vampire or werewolf to ‘cure’ me, then life would be perfect! 😈 😈

  21. Nicole says:

    I love to relax with a good book when I’m stressed and just want to disappear. It helps me forget 🙂

  22. Liz Kreger says:

    Totally with you on this, Lori. I’d much rather be a positive person than a negative one. I certainly don’t like hearing bleh things coming from other people, so why would I do it?

    I’m tend to be an impulse buyer. If something makes me smile, I want it. It can be anything from a silly little plastic movable bug, to a greeting card. I’d rather surround myself with things that make me smile. That goes with people, too. I try to avoid the emotional vampires. Met a number of them and they just suck you dry.

  23. Barbara Elness says:

    I lighten my mood by getting lost in a book, especially one with some humorous action. Or I’ll watch a silly movie on television that gets me laughing. I do try not to let the little things get to me by thinking of some of the ways things could be so much worse and reflect on how lucky I am to not have those worse things happening to me. 😀

  24. Jacque H. says:

    What a great post! I think spending time with friends, loved ones, and furry babies is such an important investment in my mental and physical health. When I seem to be struggling, a quick lunch date with a friend, taking my dogs for a walk, or doing something special for someone goes a long way to improving my day. It’s probably the act of “doing” rather than “thinking”.
    I kinda starting my second career and I hate when I make mistakes! Thankfully, I’m learning I really can impact how I feel. And if all else fails, there is always a hot bubble bath, glass of wine, and good book to escape to 🙂
    Jacque H.`s last blog was …Happiness is… and Giveaway!

    • Jacque H. says:

      So sorry I could not get this to post without putting in a website! So I put yours in Lori.

  25. Chelsea B. says:

    Good books, good movies, all with an HEA, of course. Chocolate, a yummy meal when I haven’t had a good one for awhile. My family. Always my family. Talking about things even when I think I don’t need to. Going to a bookstore and just breathing. The little things 🙂

  26. Wonderful post, Lori!!
    Thank you for sharing these really helpful ways to handle tough days…
    Hope the writing will go smoothly for you as you race toward your deadline — sending good thoughts! 🙂
    Marilyn Brant`s last blog was …Release Day for MO’S HEART by Edie Ramer

  27. Kimh says:

    Great prze Ty,
    My family and friens loce them
    My Flowers in my garden make me happy, whoo 😀

  28. Lola Donnelley says:

    Today I”m happy for having a four day old grandson, Luke , another one coming in August , and a four year old, Jackson, . I am soo blessed!

  29. Lola Donnelley says:

    Happiness is having grandchildren ! I have two and one on the way so I am tryst blessed.

  30. CateS says:

    That’s the wonderful thing about pets… they certainly bring humor into your life. We had a pup that loved to sleep under our very low coffee table… As he grew.. he really kept trying to get back under the table… just plain did not fit… he got rather frustrated until we made the table sit up higher for him!! The things we do for our fur babies!
    I always try to say something complimentary to someone doing some sort of ‘service’ for me..

  31. Mariska says:

    what A wonderful post , Lori !!
    i’ve always go to the beach and see the sunset every week, to ‘recharge’ my happiness. well , it’s Free 😉

  32. Heather G. says:

    Love your post Lori! Hope your feeling better and your computer issues are fixed. Your post gave me a few ideas that I could try using to help me lighten my mood at times. One thing that I try to do when I’m out and about is use words like please, thank you and so on. It’s amazing how many people are surprised when you use them and it always puts a smile on your face and theirs! 🙂

    Some things that lighten my mood are my two nieces and my dogs. No matter how down you are they will do or say something that just puts the biggest smile on your face. I’m really blessed.

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