my Virgin blog

tvpA few years ago, a big idea occurred to me.  I know it sounds strange, even to me, but I couldn’t let it go so I decided to write a book on it, taking the title from a Jungian archetype. I was new to taking action on my inspirations and I can see now, somewhat naïve.

“Great,” my brother proclaimed, “you’ll be the Virgin lady!” when I told him the name of my book on story structure, The Virgin’s Promise. I felt like The 40 Year Old Virgin, except I was 50.

Virgin is such an interesting word these days.  My daughters were horrified at the thought of what they would have to say when someone asked the inevitable question – what is the name of your mother’s book? “It is way more embarrassing when you are one, Mom,” my teenager explained.

“Well”, I replied, “I am one, too”.

And I truly meant it.  I had embraced in my heart the original meaning of Virgin.  It is the journey to know your worth, just for being yourself, as in a virgin forest.  I was at a stage in my life where I was struggling to reconnect to my value for just being me as I separated from my husband and spent all my time between child care and nursing my ailing father.  I really wanted that re-awakening to a connection to who I was when I was simply being me.  The first time you know it is quite magical.  I think we need to find it again and again in life.

I wrote my book on this quest to know who you are separate from what everyone else expects or needs you to be, as I was trying to find my way.  I look deeply into that face of the Boticelli Venus and I am sure she is deeply contemplating life.  From the many readers who have responded to me I have learned that we probably all need to connect to that voice inside us that tells us we matters.  We all need a Virgin journey.

I do spend a lot of time explaining the word but I think it is worth reclaiming.  Although it is a lot of work.  People have a strong reaction to the word Virgin.  If anyone out there can think of another word for just such a journey, please share, I would embrace it whole-heartedly.  In the mean time, I am really enjoying exploring the stories of connecting to yourself and finding your place in the world.  I will be writing blogs on the structure of this journey.  I use a lot of movie examples because they tend to be internationally recognized (I live in northern Canada).  I would love to hear about books you know that also center on a Virgin journey – or your own story!  We could be self-proclaimed Virgin’s together!

About Kim Hudson

KIM HUDSON Author of The Virgin’s Promise I grew up in the Yukon, as what I would describe as a Hero’s daughter with a Cinderella Complex. Basically life taught me many of the things I needed to know to write my first book, The Virgin's Promise. It is on a story structure for a character that needs to connect to who she really is, separate from what everyone else expects of her. It uses movie example and is equally applicable to any kind of story telling. I spent the first half of my career first as a field geologist and later as a federal land claims negotiator. It was the 80's and I was proving I could do whatever men could do. I also learned that I am fascinated with masculine/feminine dynamics. Exploring my feminine side became important to me as I raised my two daughters. This lead me to study Writing for Film and Television at Vancouver Film School, and take courses on mythology, feminism and psychology including a Jungian Odyssey in Switzerland. The theory of the Virgin's journey was developed by closely observing the archetypal expressions that are all around us in movies, music, television, advertisements and stories of personal growth, including my own. In my posts I want to introduce an archetypal structure that expands the work of Joseph Campbell on the Hero's journey to include a feminine archetype. I hope it will create stories about women and men who follow their spiritual, sexual or creative awakening, otherwise known as their feminine side. I’ve tried to use examples of male and female Virgins to show this. So go ahead and explore the ideas, tell me what movies you liked and what stories you think is also a Virgin pathway, or stories of your own personal Virgin journey.
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7 Responses to my Virgin blog

  1. So, so thrilled to have you as a regular on Magical Musings, Kim! I love the idea of reclaiming the word ‘virgin’ and how you associate it with virgin forests.

    I think women in particular struggle to separate themselves from the expectations others have of them. I would also love to see what books people suggest as being a good Virgin’s Promise story.

  2. Edie Ramer says:

    Kim, welcome to MM! Wonderful blog. I’m reading One Wish by Robyn Carr right now in which the heroine is actually a virgin when the book starts out. She had lived a regimented life, and now she’s on a journey to create her own life. In my wip, my heroine is a loving single mother, and she’s returned to her roots. Her heart place – where life has not stayed still, waiting for her. All my characters have a journey, even the secondary characters.

  3. Dale Mayer says:

    Hi Kim, welcome to MM!

    As someone who has walked many virgin pathways, I find I tend to write strong female leads who are doing the exact same thing! Emotional journeys are so important!

    • Kim Hudson says:

      I agree. It is that inner journey that I find so interesting.

      I think Virgin journeys are a spiral. I find myself returning to the Virgin journey again and again. Great phrase “I have walked many Virgin pathways”
      Each time we walk it, it gets more interesting. How sweet is that!

  4. Kim Hudson says:

    Hello Edie and Michelle,

    I am so delighted to be a part of this group! I will look up One Wish. It is really common for people to make their character a Virgin – I wonder if they consciously or subconsciously make that choice because it is such a great symbol of being on the edge of awakening to the sensual pull to be fully alive. There is a great Canadian book called The Pregnant Virgin (non-fiction Jungian book) by Woodman. She suggests that many women go on their Virgin journey when they have raised their kids and feel a need to connect to who they are – why they matter separate from caring for others. Sounds like your book has recognized that part of the human condition. Can’t wait to read it!

  5. Mary Hughes says:

    Hi, Kim,

    Thanks for this moving post! I think life is a constant journey of self-discovery, and I look forward to reading more of your posts, to see the light you shed on the path 🙂
    Mary Hughes`s last blog was …3T Writing Tidbit

  6. Kim Hudson says:

    Thanks Mary!

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