What is Cinderella’s Deal?

There are so many versions of the Cinderella story out there, in different times and different cultures, there has to be something about it that speaks to people.  I am fascinated with this.

The basic story is a girl finds herself in an environment of envy and she learns to make herself small to feel safe.  Covered in soot she doesn’t have to worry that her light will shine and cause her sisters to knock her down emotionally.  But one day she does shine, and attracts the attention of someone she likes and she wants her to keep shining.

Pretty_Woman_11.jpgNow she has a problem.  She figures if she is really good and really helpful, one day her step mother and sisters are going to turn to her and say thank you for all your help, it is your turn to be happy in life now.  How can we help you?  But they have no interest in Cinderella feeling good.  Her low sense of her right to take up space in the world is working just fine for them.  They double up their efforts to keep her small.

But there has to be a moment where Cinderella recognizes that she wants something for herself, that she doesn’t need anyone’s permission to shine.  And she helps herself.  Funny thing is, once she takes the initiative to bring her best self to life, the kingdom suddenly recognizes how lucky they are to have her beauty and talent among them.

I’ve seen this story in Europe, China, and Japan (Hime). I’ve even seen it in my life.  In movies it is the theme of Ever After and Pretty Woman to name just a few!

About Kim Hudson

KIM HUDSON Author of The Virgin’s Promise I grew up in the Yukon, as what I would describe as a Hero’s daughter with a Cinderella Complex. Basically life taught me many of the things I needed to know to write my first book, The Virgin's Promise. It is on a story structure for a character that needs to connect to who she really is, separate from what everyone else expects of her. It uses movie example and is equally applicable to any kind of story telling. I spent the first half of my career first as a field geologist and later as a federal land claims negotiator. It was the 80's and I was proving I could do whatever men could do. I also learned that I am fascinated with masculine/feminine dynamics. Exploring my feminine side became important to me as I raised my two daughters. This lead me to study Writing for Film and Television at Vancouver Film School, and take courses on mythology, feminism and psychology including a Jungian Odyssey in Switzerland. The theory of the Virgin's journey was developed by closely observing the archetypal expressions that are all around us in movies, music, television, advertisements and stories of personal growth, including my own. In my posts I want to introduce an archetypal structure that expands the work of Joseph Campbell on the Hero's journey to include a feminine archetype. I hope it will create stories about women and men who follow their spiritual, sexual or creative awakening, otherwise known as their feminine side. I’ve tried to use examples of male and female Virgins to show this. So go ahead and explore the ideas, tell me what movies you liked and what stories you think is also a Virgin pathway, or stories of your own personal Virgin journey.
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3 Responses to What is Cinderella’s Deal?

  1. Mary Hughes says:

    Hi Kim,

    How delightful, I just was thinking about Cinderella! I even wrote a post on it to work out my feelings, on my personal blog for next February.

    I love your explanation of the emotional conflict! How she has to overcome behavior of a lifetime to shine. True for many women. Thanks for this post!

  2. Kim Hudson says:

    I know, right? I often marvel at how often Cinderella’s message seems to be in my life.

  3. Edie Ramer says:

    Kim, I love your take on it. I’ve been irritated lately by all the Cinderella-like books out, but I never thought what drove Cinderella. Of course, I loved Cinderella when I was young, but as I grew older, she seemed so passive to me. I tend to like fighters better. Now I feel more compassionate toward her – though I still prefer heroines who are fighters.

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